For Next Year I Think I’ll Just Be Happy

Without doubt this has been one of the worst years of my life having lost my much-loved Dad following a devastating year of unbearable terminal illness. It’s hard to believe that his accident was twelve long months’ ago and he went overnight from driving the old folk to the supermarket to not being able to tie his own shoelaces. There have been so many enlightening lessons and although I always thought I was a strong person I clearly didn’t know what strong was until now.  I’ve met some people on this journey that have been like bottled sunshine on a very rainy day and some not so much. Whilst I cannot wait to embrace the New Year and hopefully a new start ultimately I will begin it a little sadder, wiser but a damn sight more fierce than the person I was twelve months ago.

What I’ve learned this year:

Karma does exist so even in your intensely frustrating moments you just have to sit back and let the universe deal with it

Fight for what you believe is right even if it takes every ounce of strength you have and then some

Learn to say no

People can be insensitive, selfish and will disappoint you so just appreciate and be grateful for the kind ones that warm your heart in your darkest of moments.

Don’t hoard beautiful things waiting for that special occasion to use or wear them; that special day is every day in which you are fortunate to walk this earth

Take some time to sit awhile with the elderly and infirmed and let them share their stories; you might just learn something!

Don’t leave words in your heart unspoken waiting for the right time; seize the moment and be bold for there will never be a perfect moment

Did a random act of kindness from a stranger on one of your bleakest days make all the difference? Then pay it forward; the world needs more of that.

Never underestimate the power of touch; hold a hand it may provide comfort to some lost soul facing their own struggles

Celebrate successes, special occasions and life, all with reckless abandon & joy for these will be the golden days you will remember for the rest of your life

Laugh as much as you can and whenever possible

Don’t be too proud to accept help

It’s good to talk so find a friend (two or four-legged) who understands the difficult road you’re walking

When it gets too much let it out and have a good cry, big fat shoulder-heaving noisy tears; you’ll scare the neighbours but you’ll feel lighter in spirit

Don’t side-line the things that make your heart sing because all of us need a tuppence-worth of happiness to add a little light to our troubled hearts

Sometimes you think you may never smile again and maybe you’ve forgotten how to but rest assured somewhere down the road the clouds will fade and the sun will shine for you again

Don’t pretend you’re fine when you’re not; there is no shame in admitting you need someone to help share your burden every now and then.

No one debilitating disease is worse than any other to each victim of Cancer, Alzheimer’s, Motor Neurone, Parkinson’s, Heart Disease, Strokes, they are all equally devastating and crush millions of families the world over. So for those still fighting their own battles have courage & faith, my friends; you got this!

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32 thoughts on “For Next Year I Think I’ll Just Be Happy

  1. My dear friend, your thoughts and insights give hope and encouragement to those who suffer from loss, pain, despair. Courage is taking one step at a time, recognizing that our grief will be consoled by the warm memories of the ones that have gone before. In the end, all the will matter is the love that we have received and have given in turn. Life is so good when shared with kindred spirits – their love is embedded in our hearts. Many hugs and love coming your way.

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  2. Wishing you a far, far better year to come. You’ve soldiered through the hard times and healing will eventually come, though never to be forgotten. Sending you love and health and happiness!
    Hugs

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      • This seems to be a hard to of year for many folks. My mom died on her 96th birthday – Xmas eve 2010. Hang in there. You never stop missing, but then the good memories ooze back to ease the pain.

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  3. Wonderful advice, all of it! It was such a relief when I accepted crying as a much-needed release, and it took forever for me to get over losing my dad when he was only 72. You will get there and cross over all the bumps and hurdles along the way. It really does help to look for all the small but happiness-inducing moments and cherish them.

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      • I’m with you. I went through it when my dad died. It’s probably different in England, but still a time-consuming, convoluted process. And at the same time you’re dealing with incredible grief. You and your dad were very close. Same with me. I still miss him these 27 years later. Just take care of yourself. The process can take a lot out of you.

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  4. Oh hun, I am so sorry. In my self-imposed exile I didn’t know, I am so very sorry. I am sending you love, hugs and anything else you need that I can give you from here.

    Your list, it is perfect. It is exactly right. Me too, I am trying to choose joy for next year also.

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  5. I’m sad for your loss, it has truly been a hard time for you. What you have learned along the way though is invaluable, and wonderful advice to help others. May you have a much happier year ahead. I’m sure your dear Dad would want you to be happy too. xx

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  7. That’s a lovely photo of him, Dallas. This Christmas will be empty for me too, but at least Dad’s not here and suffering. His life was full of love and he gave loads of it back.
    What makes your heart sing, hon? I hope you do lots of it next year. 🙂

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