Without doubt this has been one of the worst years of my life having lost my much-loved Dad following a devastating year of unbearable terminal illness. It’s hard to believe that his accident was twelve long months’ ago and he went overnight from driving the old folk to the supermarket to not being able to tie his own shoelaces. There have been so many enlightening lessons and although I always thought I was a strong person I clearly didn’t know what strong was until now. I’ve met some people on this journey that have been like bottled sunshine on a very rainy day and some not so much. Whilst I cannot wait to embrace the New Year and hopefully a new start ultimately I will begin it a little sadder, wiser but a damn sight more fierce than the person I was twelve months ago.
What I’ve learned this year:
Karma does exist so even in your intensely frustrating moments you just have to sit back and let the universe deal with it
Fight for what you believe is right even if it takes every ounce of strength you have and then some
Learn to say no
People can be insensitive, selfish and will disappoint you so just appreciate and be grateful for the kind ones that warm your heart in your darkest of moments.
Don’t hoard beautiful things waiting for that special occasion to use or wear them; that special day is every day in which you are fortunate to walk this earth
Take some time to sit awhile with the elderly and infirmed and let them share their stories; you might just learn something!
Don’t leave words in your heart unspoken waiting for the right time; seize the moment and be bold for there will never be a perfect moment
Did a random act of kindness from a stranger on one of your bleakest days make all the difference? Then pay it forward; the world needs more of that.
Never underestimate the power of touch; hold a hand it may provide comfort to some lost soul facing their own struggles
Celebrate successes, special occasions and life, all with reckless abandon & joy for these will be the golden days you will remember for the rest of your life
Laugh as much as you can and whenever possible
Don’t be too proud to accept help
It’s good to talk so find a friend (two or four-legged) who understands the difficult road you’re walking
When it gets too much let it out and have a good cry, big fat shoulder-heaving noisy tears; you’ll scare the neighbours but you’ll feel lighter in spirit
Don’t side-line the things that make your heart sing because all of us need a tuppence-worth of happiness to add a little light to our troubled hearts
Sometimes you think you may never smile again and maybe you’ve forgotten how to but rest assured somewhere down the road the clouds will fade and the sun will shine for you again
Don’t pretend you’re fine when you’re not; there is no shame in admitting you need someone to help share your burden every now and then.
No one debilitating disease is worse than any other to each victim of Cancer, Alzheimer’s, Motor Neurone, Parkinson’s, Heart Disease, Strokes, they are all equally devastating and crush millions of families the world over. So for those still fighting their own battles have courage & faith, my friends; you got this!